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We are here for one simple reason: To let the public know how inept the child-protective services are in this country. The child-protective services in America have become way too powerful, with way too little accountability. It is a mix of paranoia and "power-tripping" that has made for a dangerous state of affairs. In many states, the so-called "checks and balances" systems are a joke, partly because there is less blame involved in destroying innocent families than there is in failing to go after real child-abuse cases. Yet, even this is not always the case - it has been reported in a New Jersey newspaper that girls with bleeding vaginas aren't followed up by DYFS (Division of Youth and Family Services in NJ), while many so-called "emotional abuse" cases clog their system.
And one of the worst tragedies is that the "child-protective" services in this country are especially hard on families with handicap children -- particularly the mentally handicap. Why? Because they are often ignorant of the special problems that can arise out of dealing with the mentally handicap; because it is too easy for them to pass off a problem beyond their understanding as "emotional abuse"; because it is easier to show "progress" with such families -- usually middle-class law-abiding citizens who are struggling to do their best for their special-needs child. Their idea of "progress" is forcing the parents under threat of having their child snatched away to attend "parenting" courses -- often that has nothing to do with special-needs children -- and also to see psychologists or therapists that are usually of little or no help, but are only there to make money off of these innocent families -- at taxpayer's expense. And who will be the ones that will be diligent at keeping the forever ongoing appointments? The honest, innocent, struggling families -- not the real hardened child-abusers who really need these services.
The other crux of this heinous problem lies with society itself, which is largely ignorant or biased against the mentally handicap. It is bad enough that belegeaured parents have to deal with the complexities and headaches of raising such a child without also having to deal with the fallout of ignorance of those around them!
Those with normal children are also beset with dangers. Reckless teenagers will sometimes hang CYS over their parents' heads to get their way. When they don't get their way, they'll call CYS and lie about some minor type of child-abuse. When the CYS rips them asunder and sticks them in the vulture-care (I'm sorry - foster care) system, they are quickly sorry for what they've done, but then it's too late -- the CYS will not listen to the teen anymore, and the forced estrangement continues. No one wins.